"We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win."

This is huge! When we understand this, we can have a bit of freedom.

 All I can say Kim is I feel sorry for you.  There are those people that struggle every day and still find that silver lining in each day.  Then,there are those who never get out from under their dark cloud and have to try to spread it out to all those around them.  I hope the sun shines  for you tomorrow