What a great article! I really appreciate what Mr. O'Malley has to say. My husband's mother passed a few years ago and in dealing with his grief I realized that trying to say "the right thing" is nearly impossible. The platitudes and cliches are meant to make the giver feel better, not the receiver. This article has helped me understand how to carry out my role better, to be more supportive of my husband. When someone feels such intense grief and you don't, it's very uncomfortable. You feel guilty, you want to make them feel better but instinctively know you can't. This article has opened my eyes, thank you!
On Jan 18, 2018 Cari Z wrote:
What a great article! I really appreciate what Mr. O'Malley has to say. My husband's mother passed a few years ago and in dealing with his grief I realized that trying to say "the right thing" is nearly impossible. The platitudes and cliches are meant to make the giver feel better, not the receiver. This article has helped me understand how to carry out my role better, to be more supportive of my husband. When someone feels such intense grief and you don't, it's very uncomfortable. You feel guilty, you want to make them feel better but instinctively know you can't. This article has opened my eyes, thank you!