Really thankful for this profound, moving essay, and your comments, Ted and Aimee. I get so frustrated when well meaning folks encourage me to focus on the positive. Being awake to pain, one's own or others', doesn't necessarily mean wallowing. But I am guilty of rejecting myself for my own suffering, judging myself harshly for not being happy or positive enough. Safety is so tempting, and frankly I'd rather live there most of the time.