The suggestions in this article might be "THE RIGHT WAY" (as the title claims) for some people...but here really isn't just one right way. I have used teachings by the Dalai Lama and Pema Chodron to experience emotions without getting reactive, or hooked. Neuroscience has discovered that emotions last 90 seconds. If we let them go then we don't suffer the inner discontent that arises with anger. If we do, we can explore that.
"At one point I might want to assert my dominance by telling a story, and a few minutes later I might want to increase the feeling of connection by ignoring an incendiary remark."
Dominance?????? Increase the feeling of connection by ignoring? I don't sense any heart-based feeling in this statement. It seems more like the author uses control to manipulate the situation...doesn't seem healthy to me, for either person. Connection does not arise from control and manipulation, but from disarming, or taking off the armor.
On Nov 23, 2014 linnaeab wrote:
The suggestions in this article might be "THE RIGHT WAY" (as the title
claims) for some people...but here really isn't just one right way. I have used
teachings by the Dalai Lama and Pema Chodron to experience emotions without
getting reactive, or hooked. Neuroscience has discovered that emotions last 90
seconds. If we let them go then we don't suffer the inner discontent that
arises with anger. If we do, we can explore that.
"At one point I might want to assert my dominance by telling a story, and
a few minutes later I might want to increase the feeling of connection by
ignoring an incendiary remark."
Dominance??????
Increase the feeling of connection by ignoring? I don't sense any heart-based
feeling in this statement. It seems more like the author uses control to
manipulate the situation...doesn't seem healthy to me, for either person.
Connection does not arise from control and manipulation, but from disarming, or
taking off the armor.