The two poignant anecdotes convey the mystery of two souls touching. But in the case of the woman helping change the ileostomy, can we be certain that her mindset was serving and not helping or even fixing? My point is that the motivation and intention of the 'helper' is only one of several factors influencing the nature of an interaction. Some of the previous 'helpers' that were found wanting may have genuinely intended to serve, yet for reason of some lack (could be empathy, awareness, expertise, or a number of others) failed to give rise to the 'connection' that is so delightful and healing. Likewise, failure to make such connections can be attributed to the one receiving help or service.
On Aug 8, 2013 Wayne Iba wrote:
The two poignant anecdotes convey the mystery of two souls touching. But in the case of the woman helping change the ileostomy, can we be certain that her mindset was serving and not helping or even fixing? My point is that the motivation and intention of the 'helper' is only one of several factors influencing the nature of an interaction. Some of the previous 'helpers' that were found wanting may have genuinely intended to serve, yet for reason of some lack (could be empathy, awareness, expertise, or a number of others) failed to give rise to the 'connection' that is so delightful and healing. Likewise, failure to make such connections can be attributed to the one receiving help or service.