I think this theory is sometimes true, but more often than not when we don't like someone it's because we are allowing ourselves to take on what they are projecting. If someone is mean and egocentric their goal will be to force everyone around them to feel the inadequacies they don't want to accept in themselves. If you take this projection on you will definitely feel angry and frustrated because you won't like the way it feels. It's not yours to own! As a therapist, I have to tolerate these kinds of projections all the time to get to the real underlying issue in the person.
On Oct 22, 2012 Dr. Brosh wrote:
I think this theory is sometimes true, but more often than not when we don't like someone it's because we are allowing ourselves to take on what they are projecting. If someone is mean and egocentric their goal will be to force everyone around them to feel the inadequacies they don't want to accept in themselves. If you take this projection on you will definitely feel angry and frustrated because you won't like the way it feels. It's not yours to own! As a therapist, I have to tolerate these kinds of projections all the time to get to the real underlying issue in the person.