Interesting. There are really several interlinked issues here: 1. dealing with someone you don't like; 2. Defining the characteristics of why you don't like someone; 3. determining if there can be a way to have a productive working relationship with someone who has characteristics you don't like. Sometimes there are people who have characteristics that are so unalterable and so disruptive that the best thing to do is get rid of that person or find a way to get away from that person. Sometimes the things you don't like in that person have nothing to do with you having the same personal characteristics. I call these people assholes. There is a great idea in business theory called the No Asshole Rule which was later written into a book - http://www.amazon.com/The-A...
Since I own my own business, I often am meeting assholes who are new to me. In general, I choose not to take their business or, in some cases (like if they are only an asshole some of the time), I charge them more money than I'd charge someone else because they are going to take up more of my time. Sometimes you have a new client who reveals himself to be an asshole over time. The best thing to do in these cases is to finish the contract and don't do anymore work with the asshole.
Aside from assholes, there are sometimes people who you like but who have some characteristics that make them difficult to work with. The key here is to asses if this person has a core competency that you need, that will help you accomplish what you need to. If they do, then you make a decision to work with the person and find new/different ways for getting the project with this person to work.
Overall, the best rule of thumb is to assess whether the person in question has something of importance to bring to the table. Then assess whether the positive thing outweighs the negative thing. If the person brings more positive than negative, then figure out a way to make it work. However, if the person brings more negative than positive, cut your losses right away. Sometimes there is a case where the balance is equal. In these cases, I sometimes decide to take on trial project with the person to see if we can find a way to work together. If the project goes well, then we may move on to future projects. If it does not go well, we part ways professionally and respectably. I tell these clients this straight up at the beginning and I even put in what I call a "30-day out" clause. Either party can cancel the project at any time as long as they give 30 day notice.
On Oct 22, 2012 Susan Rubinsky wrote:
Interesting. There are really several interlinked issues here: 1. dealing with someone you don't like; 2. Defining the characteristics of why you don't like someone; 3. determining if there can be a way to have a productive working relationship with someone who has characteristics you don't like. Sometimes there are people who have characteristics that are so unalterable and so disruptive that the best thing to do is get rid of that person or find a way to get away from that person. Sometimes the things you don't like in that person have nothing to do with you having the same personal characteristics. I call these people assholes. There is a great idea in business theory called the No Asshole Rule which was later written into a book - http://www.amazon.com/The-A...
Since I own my own business, I often am meeting assholes who are new to me. In general, I choose not to take their business or, in some cases (like if they are only an asshole some of the time), I charge them more money than I'd charge someone else because they are going to take up more of my time. Sometimes you have a new client who reveals himself to be an asshole over time. The best thing to do in these cases is to finish the contract and don't do anymore work with the asshole.
Aside from assholes, there are sometimes people who you like but who have some characteristics that make them difficult to work with. The key here is to asses if this person has a core competency that you need, that will help you accomplish what you need to. If they do, then you make a decision to work with the person and find new/different ways for getting the project with this person to work.
Overall, the best rule of thumb is to assess whether the person in question has something of importance to bring to the table. Then assess whether the positive thing outweighs the negative thing. If the person brings more positive than negative, then figure out a way to make it work. However, if the person brings more negative than positive, cut your losses right away. Sometimes there is a case where the balance is equal. In these cases, I sometimes decide to take on trial project with the person to see if we can find a way to work together. If the project goes well, then we may move on to future projects. If it does not go well, we part ways professionally and respectably. I tell these clients this straight up at the beginning and I even put in what I call a "30-day out" clause. Either party can cancel the project at any time as long as they give 30 day notice.