It is a challenge to our own heart to step into our sadness --which we need to do before we can sit quietly with another's. It is an acknowledgement that there is much outside our control; that this loss was not within our power to prevent or change, And feeling powerless drives us to try and fix, fill the hole with platitudes or bravado. Instead, the void waits for us to discover our strength to face the shadows.Walking with the darkness of loss and grief is the way, the only way to fully exist in this bittersweet world of both life and death.