I go to the library in Santa Monica to write quite often.
The other day, I went there to get some work done, and I see this man standing and looking at some books. New nonfiction. He has a sign on his chest that says “Be Love.”
I ask him if I can take a picture, and he happily obliges. I turn around to get some money in my wallet. (He’s homeless—that much is evident. There are a lot of homeless that hang out at the Santa Monica library.) I turn back around, and he’s taken the sign off.
“Picture’s free,” he says, “but you have to wear this for two hours. I’m David, what’s your name?”
I ask him to tie it around my neck. He says if anyone asks me what the sign is about to tell him, “It’s a demand.”
I gave him a hug and two bucks and went up the stairs to write. The smiles I got as I walked to my little table by the window. Be love, be love, be love. Part of my book talks about the messengers in our lives. David was one such messenger, indeed.
He’d also never taken a pic with an iPhone before, and the picture of me below was his first one ever. Pretty, pretty good.
Later that night…
I wore the “Be Love” sign to class teach my yoga class. I walked in and said, “Can anyone guess what the theme is tonight?”
Everyone laughed at the obviousness of it, but, as someone said after class, when she came to me with tears in her eyes, the room “softened.” She said, verbatim, that she had never seen anything like it.
I wore the sign all day. Being true to my word and all. The girl with tears in her eyes said that the class was like a poem, which just might be the greatest thing to say to me.
Did I do that? Nah. The sign on my chest did.
You see, no one could resist it. Even the grumpy dudes in the back who think I talk too much and “can’t we just downdog?” even smiled and giggled at the sign. It softened the room because, well, love does that.
As I drove to class, I was behind a guy who was driving way below the speed limit and turned without using a blinker—a guy I deemed “jerk” to myself. Out loud. In my car. Which made me chuckle. There I was, with a big old BE LOVE cardboard sign on my chest, and I was calling some stranger a jerk?
I laughed at myself and pretty quickly thanked the cardboard for keeping me in check.
Be congruent, Jen.
You are love. Be love. Or, as Jesse on Breaking Bad would say, “Be love, yo.” (I apologize for any BB inside jokes. My obsession runs deep.)
May I always have a sign on my chest. Whether I can see it or not. May we all remember that we have these signs on our chests. May we all remember to Be LOVE.
Thanks, David, the homeless man I met in the library, who passed on the love to me. I hope you know what you’ve done, my dear sir. My big, dear hearted sir. I just hope you have some small inkling, whoever and wherever you are.
This article orginally appeared on Jennifer Pastiloff's blog and is republished here with permission. Jennifer is a yoga teacher, writer, and advocate for children with special needs based in L.A. She is also the creator of Manifestation Yoga and leads retreats and workshops all over the world. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter.
Heh heh, loved the bit in the car, calling someone a jerk and so on. I identify.
I sat a mindfulness retreat again recently and this time, coming back into London life, I have been amazed to learn how often I get very, very grumpy with strangers on the Underground for minor teeny meaningless 'slights'.
Since it happens so frequently, I've decided it could be a wonderful 'be love' training, to just notice myself getting all hot and self righteous over and over again.
A sign around my neck might speed up the work though... very brave of you both to wear it! Thank you for creating the awareness, both of you.
You can't *be* what you haven't *realized* as the result of your *learning, growing and healing* process. The biggest obstacle is, that one holds on an image and make it as part of ones self image, then trying to live it. Believing strongly in it and then trying to find confirmation in ones life by searching for it in ones surrounding. In this way surviving with ones established self image, supported by every thing and every body around, who are stuck in the same illusion... Can someone dare to open ones eyes and see the misery and the endless suffering every where? Isn't this finally a reason to *wake up*?
..."Be Love", or "Be Lust"...??..I don't know..,I'm getting mixed messages from this...., ( I think there's alot of that goin' around..). Thx anyway.
how do you show your love to chickens? cows? pigs? and other animals
On Nov 5, 2013 Kristina wrote:
LOVE this. I am inspired to try it out myself.
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