True freedom lies in choice -- this is one of the core insights in the writings of Viktor Frankl, a pyschiatrist who was imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp. In the best-selling book, Man’s Search for Meaning, Frankl described his profound experiences: “We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.”
In any challenging circumstance, Frankl’s testimonial gives a starting point: in order to have the freedom to choose, we first need to be aware that we even have a choice. In awakening to the freedom of the inner choice in any moment, we immediately go from passivity to participation. Do a one-second experiment: ask yourself, “Do I have choice right now?” Simply posing that question begins to change your experience in that very instant.
But how often am I present to the fact that I have a choice? A telling study at Harvard recently showed that our minds actually wander about half the time, engaged either with the past or the future -- and not with the reality of what’s happening in this moment. So in effect, for much of the time we are simply not present. And without presence, how can there be choice? This is not to say that the past and future are not valuable constructs.
Past experiences can be great teachers, but if we’re not careful, they can disproportionately bias what’s actually happening in this instant. Similarly, our conception of the future, while it helps us plan and be prepared, is ultimately a projection that siphons attention away from the unfolding of the current moment. Past or future, being distracted from our present reality weakens any possibility of participation.
Each moment, life places us on the crest of a powerful wave -- we can either deny our capacity to choose, or we can wholeheartedly embrace it. Blue pill or red pill, decay or evolution, these opposing forces are at endless play. On the one hand, the universe incessantly moves towards greater disorder, marching to the laws of thermodynamics and entropy. On the other hand, the very word cosmos comes from the Greek for “order,” pointing to a clear arc of increasing self-organization and development. Choice is the pivot.
But choice -- or the lack thereof -- is layered, and choosing to pay attention is just the beginning. Beyond our deeply ingrained human tendency to lose awareness, another deep pattern comes to light: to encounter the present with reflexive reactivity. Of course, such conditioning represents a coding of past experience, and like the constructs of past and present, these learned preferences can be helpful in making wise choices -- up to a certain point. If they remain unconscious or subconscious, they impose themselves on all our experiences, and keep us from experiencing reality as it is. Instead, we experience it as our accumulation of unexamined patterns define it to be. And we lose out on deepening a true understanding of ourselves and our world.
If, instead, we commit to observe ourselves, even if, at first, just observing the disorder within, we begin to counteract these tendencies. Given enough neutralizing space, the ripples of reactivity die down, and awareness deepens. Such silent witnessing builds its own momentum, eventually becoming a foundation for continued learning and insight into the depths of our minds. Between things happening and responding to them, there is deep presence, and we can see more clearly into the dynamics of the mind, and the cause and effect, even of subtle, mental actions.
Not that it’s easy. As a rambunctious kid of 6 or 7, I distinctly remember my parents telling me to “introspect” after any significant mistakes I made. I remember being thoroughly confused by the word, having no clue what it meant or how to do it. As I reflect now, I realize that the word literally means to look within, to really experience the effects of our choices, the consequences of our actions. This is the essence of practical wisdom: to understand through direct experience, which actions, decisions, and intentions add to well-being, and which ones don’t.
It all starts with conscious choice. In any moment that I choose to remain aware of my current reality, I give myself a chance to accept that reality as it is, with complete equanimity. If I do, then even as the momentum of past tendencies asserts itself, I feel their effects, but choose again to stop propagating patterns. As a result, in every such moment, unhelpful habits of unconscious reactivity unravel. In continuously engaging this way with a dynamic reality, it becomes clear that transformation isn’t something that happens to me. All I am is a constantly evolving process, all I am is transformation itself, and that might just be what Frankl referred to as the “last of the human freedoms.”
This article is reprinted here with permission. More from Viral Mehta.
Thank you for these wise words. I sometimes think people are afraid to choose and prefer that someone or something will choose for them. The challenge as you say, is indeed in overcoming reflexive reactivity.
In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order. - Carl Jung
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Being Present is not only a gift to ourselves but to all those with whom we interact! Thank yoj fir Sharing such a powerful post. Hug!
We should learn from our wrong choice, and try to be a better person.
awesome article Viral, :-) thanks for the reminder to be in the present.
Choice. It changes the focus from victim to creator of this gift, this life, this experience, this lesson, this moment, this chance, this day, in this breath. Thank you for the reminder of the power of choice.
When just one person makes a choice to be present in the moment and care about others, the impact is enormous.
On Jan 12, 2013 Manisha wrote:
Thank you for sharing your profound wisdom in this insightful article! Several months ago the idea of freedom and choice came to mind. I was meditating, and realized that the simple act of sitting each day is a conscious choice that requires saying "no" to other things that do not truly benefit my life and the well-being of others. At first it required a change in my daily habits and the choice to sit was a challenge. After some time, the choice became a habit, and more subtle choices appeared. For example, focusing my mind to be aware and to be present to the unfolding of each moment is a choice. Observing sensations arising and passing and choosing to just observe this time, instead of reacting as usual, is a choice. Being placed in a negative or trying circumstance and responding with kindness instead of fear or aversion is a choice. It has been so liberating for me to be increasingly aware of the conditioned habits of my mind and to not react like I used to. Instead of seeing things through the dark- or rose-coloured glasses of my ego, it is becoming easier for me to see things as they are with clarity. It is also very empowering to know that no matter what happens, the last of the human freedoms is universal and cannot be taken away from anyone. The life of Jesus often comes to mind, as He chose to be compassionate even when being tortured. The story of Frankl's experiences during the second world war is also an inspiring example of the enduring power of choice. Thanks for sharing! :)
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