[Below is a lightly edited transcript from a talk by Sister Marilyn Lacey on September 29, 2024 to participants of a 21-day Interfaith Compassion Challenge.]
I want to share very quickly with you four tiny moments of mercy.
I will never forget the day a petite young woman walked into my office and introduced herself as Jit. I'm fascinated by accents. Anybody that has an accent has my immediate attention because it means this person is from another place, another culture, another language, another worldview, another experience that I don't have yet, but by getting to know this person, I am so enriched, right? So Jit walks into my office, and I've never met her before. She's in her thirties. She sits down and she wastes no time. She said, "Sister, I am currently in remission from cancer, and I would like a woman in Africa to be in remission from extreme poverty."
So she became a volunteer. A major donor in the remaining few years of her life. And if you have ever been seriously ill, you know that that kind of physical suffering often narrows our worlds to the confines of the contours of our pain. It never happened in Bridget's life. The opposite happened, and I will always consider her one of my best teachers.
Tiny moment of mercy #2: in South Sudan we support the only all-girl primary school in the country of 12 million people. Because girls don't usually go to school, but we're working hard on getting them into school and most of them board because they come from far away. One day, I was talking to the school nurse that we paid to be on the campus. As I was talking with her, a young girl, probably six or seven years old, came up and stood outside the nurse's door and the nurse noticed her and said, "Ah, Deborah, come in. Come in."
So Deborah did, but she wouldn't look up. She was still looking at the ground. And then the nurse said, "Are you feeling sick today?"
And Deborah just shook her head slowly. So then the nurse said, "Well, do you want to ask me any questions?"
And, again, Deborah didn't respond, but tears began welling up in her eyes. So the nurse took Deborah into her lap and embraced her very warmly, kind of rocking back and forth. And I watched this happen after a moment or so, it wasn't very long.
Debra kind of released herself from the embrace, stood up as tall as she could, thanked the nurse and walked outside. And I was standing outside and watching this through the door and she, I kind of looked at her wondering what had just transpired. And she said to me, I miss my mother. Some days, nurse helps me cry.
Deborah's mother had died the previous year and she was a borderer at the school. Imagine the presence of that nurse. I mean, we put that nurse there to help with kids who were sick. But this beautiful moment of healing happened. I will never forget it.
A third tiny moment of mercy: as you know from the film we just saw, we are working in the mountains of Haiti, [where it's] very rural, [with] very steep mountains and deep ravines and rivers you have to cross. And we have about 120 girls on scholarships currently, several of them now in medical school. And you know that Haiti is just in a death spiral right now. It's a very difficult place to work.
Of these 120 girls (most of them in high school still), one of them became pregnant, and she was so distressed about this. No one knew she was pregnant. She attempted an abortion and bled to death. When her fellow students found out about this, they decided they wanted to go to the funeral and the family, the mother, is just a mother. They lived about four hours away. The students come from the mountainous areas and they come into town, which is the only place where there are high schools.
So you can't even take a vehicle to drive to these remote villages because the mountains are too steep. So about 30 girls said, I want to take the day off school and go to this. Friends, some of them knew her, some of them didn't, but she was a fellow student. They want to go to the funeral. So we rented a bunch of motorcycles.
You can put a girl on the back of a motorcycle, and they can go about the first two hours. After that, it's too steep. So they had to walk the final two hours. So four hours of transit to be at this funeral and they were in uniform. Their school uniforms. This whole cohort of girls walking up over the ravine into the little hamlet where this mom lived.
I mean, it was like the cavalry arriving, you know; it's completely unexpected. There's no cell phone coverage up in those mountains. So she didn't know this was gonna happen. And these 30 girls walk in singing and you know, they help to prepare and be there for the whole funeral. The mother turned to the staff person, our country director, and, and was weeping and said, my daughter, my daughter had people.
She was so stunned by this outpouring, this unexpected exhibit of compassion -- coming literally over the mountains -- to stand there and be with this grieving mother.
The next tiny life-changing moment (and these are all not things we set out to do at Mercy Beyond Borders. These are like the underlying goodness of the people we work with coming out, right?): this last one is a tiny moment, but it was a completely life changing moment. One of the first things we did in South Sudan was start literacy classes for women also in Haiti, in very remote villages for women, not only who had never been to school, but who had never even seen a school, you know, just very, very remote.
And they wanted to learn numeracy so they wouldn't be cheated in the marketplace. And they wanted to learn the alphabet of their own language. So we hired a first grade teacher. Every afternoon at four in the afternoon to come for an hour with a portable blackboard and chalk, lean it against a tree and a circle of women from the village would come who were interested in learning.
So in Sudan -- as a little bit of background in Sudan, there are many people with leprosy, and people suffering from other diseases, because Sudan was in a 27 year civil war. It had zero healthcare happening in the country. So leprosy is very treatable, very controllable if you get the right medicines, but it just didn't happen in their lifetime.
So you see these groups of lepers that are always at a distance, they never interact with regular, normal people. There was this leper once who was traveling along a path and she saw this women's group. And she didn't dare go near them, but she watched them from afar and she saw they were interacting, they were having fun.
They were talking to the teacher, they were going up and using the chalkboard, and she was intrigued. So she came back the next day and she watched again from afar, and she said, "I was bitterly jealous." She admitted it. She told me later, she said, "You know, I'm angry. I was always an angry woman. I thought of myself as a rotten cabbage."
She had no tips on any of her fingers or feet. Part of her nose was gone. She wasn't beautiful, but she said, "I even became a thief to get food. If I saw a pot of cooked food, rice or something, I would go up and stick my finger in it. Knowing that, 'cause I'm a leper and I had touched the food, they would throw it out so I would get it."
That's how I survived. So she was a very socially isolated, very angry about it; just a terrible life. The isolation. So the third day, she came to watch this group of women who seemed to know one another and belong to a commune life that she had never known. And as she was watching on the third day, one of the women from the group called out to her and said, come on over.
We're finished with class. Come and have a cup of tea with us. Come and have a cup of tea. And this woman told me this was the first time she had ever in her life, been invited in by normal people. And she, in relating this story to me, she said, you know, sister, even if you are nobody here, you are somebody to me. This is why Mercy Beyond Borders exists. This is how the goodness and compassion gets shared by people when you just open a door or give an opportunity. So I mean, from Jit who said, "I'm in, I'm in recession from cancer. I want somebody else to be in recession from extreme poverty. ... To the nurse who helped that little girl cry -- that we can help one another be transparent and feel their feelings and accept them. To the girls who traveled an eight hour round trip to help someone who was feeling tragically alone, that mother to this leper woman who was invited in; even though the women feared leprosy, they took that risk.
In terms of interfaith, I love Sufi poetry, and one of the lines is, "Let yourself be drawn by what you love. There are thousands of ways to kneel and kiss the ground," and we each have our path for doing that. Thank you.
On Oct 28, 2024 Jagannatha Das wrote:
Many of us have been blessed in different ways that we do not even consider as anything special. We have roofs over our head we call home. We eat regularly at least three times a day. Everyday. We have more than enough clothes to wear. We have clean drinking water directly from the tap. Even hot water for bathing or taking a shower. The list goes on…
All we have to do is invite a stranger for a cup of tea. This small gesture of kindness is also a way of paying forward. It is a manner of expressing our gratitude for the blessings we have been taking for granted.
Thank you Sister Marilyn, for showing us how tiny acts of kindness are true reflections of mercy that could inspire others to help make our world more humane.
Godspeed and shalom🙏
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