In a world that daily throws both curiosities and crises at us, it can be difficult to discern what is important. An unexpected event can render what matters today insignificant tomorrow. How do you keep perspective?
I turned to two groups—children under seven and adults over 70—to explore this question: What is important?
Children, I reasoned, have relatively little to clutter their lives, and in that simplicity they might be able to hone in on what really matters. Adults with more than seven decades of experience would have deep insight into what is most worthy of attention.
I expected to find patterns and did. What people left out was as telling as what they included. No one named prestige or individual success, and hardly anyone mentioned money.
And there was this surprise:
We live among such remarkable people, yet few know their stories.
When I began the project, I didn’t know enough people over 70 to create a body of work, so I put a notice in a senior newspaper requesting participants. The response was immediate. And amazing. I met two Holocaust survivors, a woman who had been imprisoned in a Japanese internment camp, a community health nurse who had worked with the Black Panthers, a man with an IQ in the genius range who spent his career working with special needs kids. I met a “Jane,” the name given to all women who worked with an abortion clinic in Chicago before Roe v. Wade, and I photographed a former attorney involved in legislation that allowed abortion under some circumstances for the first time. One woman ran her first half marathon at 79. One gentleman created one of Oregon’s first vineyards.
We live among such remarkable people, yet few know their stories. Why do we show such little appreciation for people beyond a certain age? Policy and decision makers rarely seek their advice. Their faces do not grace the cover of magazines. It is unlikely their stories will show up in a Google search.
I came away from this project with my own list of what’s important. At the top of that list is the importance of connecting with others in general, but in particular with those who have lived long lives. Do not let these people disappear quietly into their homes. Draw them out, engage them in conversation, and learn from them.
What three things matter most to you? Tell us in the comments below!
Magdaleno Rose-Avila (Leno)
Born to immigrant parents, Leno was one of 12 children. He began working in Colorado’s onion fields when he 11 and later became deeply involved in workers’ rights. He worked with Cesar Chavez’s United Farm Workers and in the Chicano movement of the 1960s and ’70s. Together with Sister Helen Prejean, he founded The Moratorium Campaign.
Lucca, 6
Alex Panasenko
Alex was separated from his Russian family (which was living in Germany at the time) and sent to a German work camp when he was 10 years old. He was released a year later with no idea where his family was. He survived by selling things on the black market. As an adult, he taught Advanced Placement science in a Berkeley, California, high school. He served in the Korean War.
Nia, 6
Frank Thompson
Frank spent 30 years as a prison warden. Two Oregon death row inmates were executed during his years at the Oregon State Penitentiary. He is now a board member for Oregonians for Alternatives to the Death Penalty.
Pippi, 7
Starr Farrell
Star, a cancer survivor, is a former community health nurse who worked with the Black Panthers.
Carson, 5
Nancy Sims
Nancy spent her career in hospital administration. She ran her first half marathon at 79 and is an avid kayaker.
Colton, 6
Judith Arcana
Judith, a writer and activist, was a Jane, a member of the Chicago underground service that helped more than 11,000 women get safe illegal abortions before Roe v. Wade. She holds a Ph.D. in literature and has taught in high schools, colleges, and libraries. She has authored nine books, and her essays and poetry have appeared in numerous anthologies and other publications.
Indiana, 7
Akhila Mudigonda
Akhila spent her childhood and most of her adulthood in India. She now lives in the United States. She suffered a stroke several years ago, but she still makes clay sculptures of religious figures and animals.
Orrin, 6
Grant Tetsuka
Grant was born and raised in Hawaii, settling on the mainland as an adult. He attended college on a GI bill and was a teacher for 40 years. Retired now, he makes frequent trips to Oregon to visit his grandchildren.
Payton, 6
Hattie Lechlitner
Hattie is the mother of five children and twelve grandchildren.
Avayah, 4
Lillian Tetsuka
Lilian was born and raised in Hawaii. In addition to raising her children, she was an executive secretary. She and her husband Grant (seen above) make frequent trips to Oregon to visit grandchildren.
Michael, 6
Ann Teresi
Ann is a gourmet cook who often prepares huge pots of soup for the residents of the apartment complex where she lives.
This article is shared here with permission from YES! Magazine, a national, nonprofit media organization that fuses powerful ideas with practical actions. Nancy Hill is a writer and photographer currently working on a photo series involving war veterans
1. My balcony garden and nature on the whole
2. Making heartpins and sharing love
3. Family
Thank you Nancy for this beautiful and inspiring post.Would make a terrific book for all ages. I am writing an article about transformation and transition for Baby Boomers and will mention your article. Do you want to share a website info?
1. Inner work and connection with Source
2. Nature, especially trees, Hummingbirds and brooks
3. Understanding and compassion for myself and others
Loving kindness & compassion to everyone
Friendships
sharing our gifts and talents in a meaningful way to uplift others
Such an important question, "What matters"? A question we should all ask ourselves throughout our lives. If we began this introspection early in life, would we feel more directed living our lives? Would "What matters" change significantly over time?
Thank you for these heartwarming words and images!
1. Simplicity.
2. Compassion for all living beings.
3. Wisdom
this looked like it might have been a great article that I would have loved reading, however the rapid changes of text, too fast to read and with no way to pause it, meant it was actually stimulating much frustration and anger and with no positive effects at all. So very disappointing.
Please do no ever do this layout again. If you are going to send us words, at least let us read them!
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1) Family both close and extended
2) Faith and spirituality
3) Health
1. Family
2. Seeking and seeing the good inside our fellow humans (and yes sometimes one must look very hard to find it...keep looking)
3. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle (know what you put in your body; seek to keep that balanced, and excercise; preferably out in nature)
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A healthy and peaceful life
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